Monday, February 22, 2016

Can A Doll Substitute For a Real Companion?

I was asked the other day if love dolls can really substitute for a real lover.  Based on all the press from Japan about life-like dolls being collected by single men NOT looking for a partner, I had to think that "yes", in some cases I think it could.  But for most, it is a temporary substitute.

First, I must differentiate between the typical blow-up dolls that are available on the market and the high quality silicone real dolls that range from $1500-$10,000USD!   There is an incredible difference between the buyers of these dolls.

Your high-end real doll buyer is a connoisseur of pleasure dolls and is buying the doll for more than just sex.  This is the person who is going to dress and display the doll and maintain a relationship of some type with the doll -- who will be addressed by "her name".

That is not the average buyer however.  When I worked in an adult store, I learned that guys who bought blow-up dolls used them once and then threw them into a closet or drawer to never be used again.  Why?  Because they take WAY too much work for a simple session of masturbation.

Imagine having to blow up the doll each and every time you want to have a blasting session.  You become exhausted from all the work necessary to set-up your afternoon interlude.  And I found that guys wanted to blow their load as fast as possible in the most realistic way without having to plan and spend hours prepping or cleaning up afterwards.

We all know that guys aren't exactly into all the advance planning now don't we?  They want it quick, and on their terms, and blowing up a doll doesn't always fit into that program!  Ideally, the best suggestion we gave in those days was a realistic vagina that didn't come with all the trappings of preparation and long clean up.  

And yes, I have seen the dolls made for women, but in my opinion, they are usually of terrible quality, and no women I know would want to go that route.  Silicone transsexual dolls, or torso dolls are more appealing to ladies, and usually come with a very firm appendage as well as breast.  (I just checked on the internet and the official name is "silicone Man Doll".  Sometimes it is "something different" that makes the explosion more intense.  With a doll, it doesn't matter whether you would do it in real life -- it is a doll and no one knows!

A doll companion can be as life like as you want, depending on the amount of money you wish to spend.  I have seen so many different materials used for dolls -- from stuffed cloth (think of a stuffed animal but sewn into the shape of a pair of pants) to sturdy latex, as well as surgical grade, ultra hygienic latex.   Much of the material used is difficult to describe due to the proprietary nature of the skin -- such as real feel or Cyber Skin. 

 Realistic dolls provide the visual stimulation that makes masturbation or hands-free masturbation with a toy more pleasurable.  Sometimes guys told me they didn't care about the visual stimulus, they just wanted something to "hold" the vagina so they could have sex without having to hold it themselves (having sex versus the feeling of masturbation).

Female form dolls usually have very firm and large breasts, although a few makes now make "small breast" dolls and you can search for that term for more information.  Some of the dolls allow you to fill the breast with water for a more realistic experience.

Female dolls may also have a built-in vagina or anus, which is the most common, but is NOT the best.  The absolute best situation is to have the ability to insert the fleshlight or tenga into the doll, and be able to remove that ONE item for cleaning.  Cleaning the semen out of the doll can be both tricky and time consuming when you can't remove the body parts.  

The next step in doll creation is the "robotic" doll currently being marked (and currently being fought against in the media!).  It is true!  There is a campaign against the use of technology for sex dolls!  I refuse to link to the site and give the nut-case any creds, but you can find it by reading this article at Popular Mechanics.

The person behind the "no sex doll left behind" campaign believes that robotic dolls "objectifies women and children".  I consider myself to be rather familiar with most words, but I had to look that term up at wiki, because I wanted to know what it really meant.
Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as an instrument of sexual pleasure. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity.
OMG!  She is worried about the robot's feelings?  Like we are treating it less than human?  We aren't giving the robot any "dignity"?  Are you kidding?  This, by the way, is an important psychological issue of "feminism".  Ok, I have had my laughter for the day.

The poor, poor, robot-sextoy.  It is such a victim.  :(

As with all "sex toys", a love doll requires cleaning, and a damp rag rubbed along the skin will remove any sweat residue or other bodily fluids left by the "lover". :)

This article originally appeared with pictures on LoveWorks Magazine